EVERY SINGLE THING ON THIS LIST IS NOT SOMETHING YOU CAN PHYSICALLY DO, BUT SOME WAY TO LIVE, OR THINK, OR BELIEVE.
Things like forgive ex-lovers (which I have none of, by the way), love yourself unconditionally, be open to change, risk everything for love (don't we do that every day?), stop thinking you did something wrong (again, don't we do that every day?), follow your heart, give up attachments to 'stuff', recognize the journey as the reward, welcome all life lessons, and so on and so forth.
Now, I'm not saying that those are not things to strive for. I'm saying that I think that those are ways we should be living our lives anyway - not finding ways to do them before we die.
Take the ex-lover one. I have NO ex-lovers. I am married to my only lover. I have been married to him for 36 years. I know, that puts me in a unique situation. BUT - that means I can mark this off of this list, right?? Or does it mean I have to find a replacement for this one? Does there have to be 30 on a list of 30 things to do before you die if one of the questions/requirements is unqualified, if that's the right word? Or does this mean I have to find/think of something over the years that I can forgive him for? Whatever it is, I already have. So, the question is still unqualified.
Another one - "Leave the job you hate." Never had one.
Why would you continue in a job that you despise? Yes, I understand the job market and all that bullcrap. But if you feel that way about the job and the job you do in that job will show - why make you and all those around you miserable? Do what you can to make the job NOT a job you hate! A lot of it is in your attitude anyway (and, yes, I know, a lot of it is not...), and while you are there, make the best of it. But if you are that unhappy, change what you can while you can.
I have never had a job that I have "hated." I have had jobs that I didn't like very much, but a job is a job is a job and I needed a job. If I didn't like a job, I found a different one. There are plenty of fast food restaurants and grocery stores and gas stations around. It was mostly the people around me that I didn't like, not the job itself, also, so I tried to be a pleasant person, instead of someone no one else would want to work with. I don't work now, being older and having had both a stroke and a heart attack, but, some days, I miss going out and doing something every day. All in all, for me, this one is unqualified, too.
Another one. "Reject rejection." Um. What? Rejection, in some form or another is a part of life. How can you reject it? That's why the jails and prisons are full. You must ACCEPT it, and use it in your life - to make your life better. To make you a better person, if you will. Another unqualified.
I could go on and on in this vein, but I won't. I think you all get the general picture.
I see a "Bucket List" as things - physical things like buying a fancy-ass car or going to certain cities or even having heart-to-heart talks with people (with no one getting mad!) - you wish you could do before you ~ahem~ kick the bucket, while others see a list such as this one as what a bucket list should be. My older sister is one of those kind of people - she loves this list, and thinks this is what a bucket list should be. My youngest sister, on the other hand, thinks any kind of a bucket list is ludicrous - just live.
OK, so of this list of 30, I already have 2 marked off!! Whoo-hoo!!
Going on through this list, I have considered that I have "done" 6 more of these listed. Yay, me.
I also strive to keep and do 12 more of these day-to-day. Like I said, these are more "way to live" than "things to do" things.
I feel that at least 3 of these are impossible, at least for me.
I guess I am happy with this Bucket List.
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